Hello Nikers!

Uh My have we got  a party  happening!

The  Victoria  Sagacity fundrasier  James Bondage Dance is  coming  up on May  19th.

i have been sucessful at creating a James Bondage   limo/post/pre party event  as an add on to the evening.   As NIKers you may find this an  attracive  opourtunity to come down  and   explore the  fetish ,and fun.  there is a very nice indoor pool,hot tub, and sauna…  dosnt  this sound like a blast!  

this  pre  pre  package is 57.50, as a niker, you may want to speak up for  limited over night space in the  suite. Collection for  nikers  can be arrnaged  by contacting me off group at eroticrider@hotmail.com

includes   the limo to and from the Hotel to the venue   for  up to an hour before AND after

 Talk to you soon!

Erotic Rider!

Greetings.

Time to update. People have asked me “What do you want out this lifestyle?”. After careful consideration, this is what I came up with. After analyzing past relationships, and observing new (Lifestyle) relationships, I have come to the conclusion that there a handful of predominant goals I seek. Even though I cringe at the word “want”, I am going to bite the bullet and continue on with what I believe I “want”.

This lifestyle will let me explore and practise BDsM activities of my choosing. This will work perfectly, as I will be able to use those activities to bond and re-enforce *trust* in my relationship. I also want *one* to practise these activities on, and build/surpass levels of trust and communication of past relationships, with that person. As of late, or maybe all along, I find that ritual and protocol will be excellent tools to use to keep one person focused on the other. Therefore, I “want” to develop my rituals-skill, and embrace protocol at my own pace. Combining all of the above together, a power exchange can be formed and witnessed. I want to experience a power-exchange with *one*, exclusively. While all this is taking place, I “want” to fulfill my role as a dominant. It is impossible to fill that role while running solo. I also “want” exclusive companionship, with intent of lifelong devotion.

There are many activities that appear to have different effects when applied to the human body. I may need to try them all to see what will work best for us. Three activities that I “want” to become more proficient in are:ropework, predicament bondage, and electricity. Of course, I will engage in more forms of play, as I do like most of what I have seen and read about. Spanking, comes to mind, and I love the hands-on play that spankings offers!! All of these activities will take time to become proficient at, therefore, the intent of a long-term partner is most desired.

In regards to protocol, there are some aspects, of higher protocol, that will be put to use in a very, VERY limited way (due to the lack of interest/time, of higher protocol, in the local BDSM community in my area) This offers myself very little “practice” time. I have a tendency to believe that “practice makes perfect” and without that particular practice, it will be very hard to attain that perfection that I find “enhancing” to a relationship. In my attempts to do the best-of-my-ability, only *some* aspects of higher-protocol will be put into regular practice, while others may have to reviewed/studied prior to that *particular* protocol taking place.

I have been researching mental and physical attributes of stereotypical dominants and
submissives, and slowly incorporating them into my life, as best I am able. In my research,which includes reading blogs and forums, I have found some great advice for new Lifestylers and also some disheartening evidence of “weekend-warriors”. In my opinion, a relationship happens 24/7 and there is no room for exempting 5/7 days of the week for “non-relationship”. I realize that people are only human, and there will be lapses of focus. Intentional lapses of focus seems to be a quality that holds no admiration to me, and I will be wary of such factors in myself (both consciously and/or with assistance of my chosen girl, when she presents herself), and those who may be interested in developing a relationship with me.

I hope this has helped you get a better feeling about who/what I may be looking for in a longterm relationship. Add a little dash of interest in aspects of metaphysical practices, some pagan ideals, and an affinity for motorcyles and things may just roll your way. I am looking for a more service-orientated partner who is open to moderate to hard play. A person who has a willingness to learn, and has the intention of keeping the passion for thier roll in a D/s relationship.

what is “fetish wear”, who decides, what is fetish attaire…Mmmm,

I think  part of the “underground fetish, bdsm, ect, attraction was to break the constraints that society has put in place, so one can “wear what ever ,,and par-take in alternative activities, that can be quite sexual in nature..

But, yet, this same group, in turn, says that “you cant wear this, or this, etc, it isnt “fetish attaire”, so now who is dictating ?and be hypicritical?,

For myself, my choice of “fetish attaire” , are you ready?, good old fashion “blue jeans” not black, ect, and mostly levis 501,( to be more exact,) with a shirt of some sort, or not, for my foot wear, could be boots, sandles, running shoes, or, bare foot….

Now, with “my choice”  of fetish attaire”, i can move freely around society, incognito, or not, again my choice, cool huh, “my fetish is life,” (really), turn it on, turn it off, anytime, anywhere, in the day, in the night, in  public, behind close doors,depending on my mood,

Well, i could go , and on, but i hope i have convayed my point, and hope, those “in charge of events ” ect, can open their minds and accept that their are many types of fetishes, and fetish attaire..And this is “my choice”and how i chose to express myself and get “my ya yas out, well then who  are you to tell me it is not a valid fetish..?

please feel free to comment ect, or if more clarity is needed..

 

 live long and prosper/ Jon

 

 

 

 

 

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10) Be a standard member and wink me You have just winked a photo. You haven’t read my profile, and you’re too cheap to pay for a membership to do so. You probably also haven’t read my blog either. In short, you want something for nothing, and merely thought my photo was sexy. You don’t know the first thing about me.

9 ) Be a silver/gold member and wink me even though it’s completely obvious even to a drunken stoat we are uncompatible. Actually, winks in and of themselves are just irritating. There’s something about a wink that is like casting a huge net without any kind of selectivity - it’s trawling the sea and just scooping up whatever is in the path and happens to respond. A bit unselective; it says to me “I just did this to see if I’d get a reply and then I’ll sift through what I get.” If you’re truly interested, show it.

8 ) Play the hot/cold game If you actually write me a glowing email, send me a few of them a day, and then disappear off the face of the earth for a week, don’t expect me to be waiting for you. Yes, real life, yes, scheduling, yes all that stuff people do outside this site, but don’t tell me I’m everything you’ve been hoping for, then disappear because you obviously wrote the exact same email to several other girls and hit it off very well with one in particular. Be for real or don’t waste my own valuable time.

7)Give me the “It’s just my preference” line after contacting me a few times. Don’t hide your racism/sexism/sizeism/whatever else-isms behind the “preference” tag. If you don’t want to be with me because I’m not white, blond, or a size eight, then the fact of the matter is you’re looking for a package, not a person. Don’t give me your bullshit excuses, especially if you were the one to contact ME first, and then decided my photo didn’t live up to the pretty little fantasy in your head. My photos are real, my blog is real. If you somehow built up something else in your mind, that’s your fault, not mine.

6) Don’t do your homework. I say “read my blog first” for a reason. Learn what I like, what I don’t like, read about what goes on in my head. Making assumptions about me or saying you’re “too lazy to do all that reading” means you’re too lazy to have me.

5) Be too chickenshit to take some initiative. Come on, the worst that can happen (unless you’re a complete wanker) is I will say “No thanks, not really interested, but good luck in your search.” Hearing the word “no” is not going to kill you. Don’t be wishy-washy, if you want it, come and get it respectfully.

4) Be a Complete Wanker This takes on many forms. Be the type of person who winks me fifteen times over and over again even if I don’t respond to the first one because there’s nothing about you that even remotely interests me. If I don’t respond to your fifteen winks, send me a snotty email about what a bitch I am. Lie to me about being married even though I can see the wedding band in your photo. Talk only about how you want me to do so-and-so to you or you want to do so-and-so to me. Take advantage of me in any way shape or form. It will last only as long as I can click the “delete” button.

3) Treat me like an experiment. I am not your casual fling, or experimental screw, or here to shag you because you’re bored. Merely because you say you’re “curious” isn’t going to have me rushing out of the house within an hour to meet you at a hotel for what will probably prove to be an incredibly boring few hours. Unless your dick is made of gold and you’re going to let me cut off a sizeable piece so I can buy myself some new clothes, there isn’t anyone on this earth who can possibly make me want to rush out and meet them at the mere receipt of an email. I doubt you’re that good in bed, either. The “I just got out of an unfulfilling relationships so I want to shag you to see what I missed, and then go find someone more visually appealing once you put my spirit back together with your love” isn’t my idea of fun. You want that? You better fucking PAY me.

2) Show a complete lack of intellect.Textspeak, a single sentence of “Hi” or loads of misspellings is a turnoff. You don’t have an excuse - I am dyslexic and use spellcheck religiously. My blog posts are actually typed in Word and spellchecked, BEFORE I put them on here and spellcheck again, and this is just a blog. If you’re trying to attract my attention, there is no excuse whatsoever.

1)Keep filling my inbox with images of your cock, and nothing else of interest. How many times do you need to see on profiles “No cock shots” before you realise we’re serious? If it’s that obvious you haven’t read my profile and still send me one of these damn images of your dick, your email goes into the bin without me bothering to open it.

 Another’s words (Match My thoughts to a “T”)

http://alt.com/blog/OyaD/index.html

After moving from Vancouver two years ago, I was missing readily being able to hangout and socialize with other kinky folks. I was craving being in environments that I could really be myself. In Vancouver, I used to go to most events and munches. I thought about it and it was the munches that I was missing most, play parties were weekend events so I was getting to some of them in either Victoria or Vancouver, but munches were not as easy to be at.

So….I thought about it for awhile and decided to see if I could pull off getting munches going here. Being lazy, I would like to have them here in Campbell River but the practical side won and I decided that geographically Courtenay was a better choice. Then off to Courtenay to see what might work as a venue. That narrowed down to Boston pizza…yup I tore a page right out of the Vancouver Munches book. The date is set, Dec 7th at 7:30 PM. Now to get some folks out…